Evil Housemates

7 years ago #9579759          

I have one: The Horney Ice Queen
Tells guys she is aromantic but would like to have sex with them.
Guys think that sounds awesome, sex with no strings or need to do romantic things.
Girl goes one having sex with them and sometimes other guys.
Guys get sad and start complaining about where the love and affection is.
Says she needs therapy for being such a cold b*tch.

7 years ago #9595499          

The 'Zoner
-Makes friends with guys based on common interests
-Has never expressed any type of fliratous or sexual interest in male friends
-Guys know and acknowledge that
-Guy still expresses sexual intention and asks her out anyway
-Are still angry no matter how politely she explains she doesn't feel the same

Pulled this one from a lot of life experience, although 'The Tease' is pretty accurate too.

7 years ago #9638781          

@MoSteamyBeats I've been called a "Friendzoner" too. It's hard to explain to someone that you aren't into them sexually and not have them get outrageously offended.

7 years ago #9582555          

At the end they'll all stay single forever... :P

7 years ago #9651423          

@flyingbanana or will they....?

7 years ago #9592690          

The heartbreaker is defs relatable. I've also been categorized like this;

The BiCurious - Tells man she's bisexual, man presses her for details about having sex with another woman, tells man she hasn't been sexual with other women, man tells her she is just "faking" for attention.

7 years ago #9684828          

Being a "tease" is so relatable, I hate when people think that kindness is flirting

7 years ago #9615069          

I actually believe I ran into a situation similar to the tease. I myself am asexual and unfortunately had a individual who mistook my friendly personality as flirty. This along with my issue with sharing details about myself with them ended up pissing them off apparently. They even called me homophobic for some reason...

7 years ago #9579717          

So there is this girl who's kinda like the tease, except instead of asexual she's just already with someone. There was this one time we were at a party with a group of people, I got everyone a beer (which took quite some time because it was crowded). By the time I got back she was dancing with some rando and a few moments later she came back, took the beer and said "you have no idea how much I need that drink right now, that dude had a friggin' erection".

7 years ago #9581990          

@Zeust I'd rather call that assholery - although it really depends on her relationship (maybe it's open?), but I wouldn't label that as "teasing" in the same sarcastic way in which it was mentioned here. You mean she literally teased, here the comic is intended to state: A girl is already considered a "tease" when she's nice to people but doesn't want to get into bed with them. Which is intended to be a sarcastic statement.

7 years ago #9583426          

@Kimyona I don't think she actually "teased", more like they just danced and the guy had an erection; not the guy's fault either, just something that happens.

7 years ago #9583672          

@BetweenTwoOceans Well, yeah, it depends on how they danced, whether they flirted, and how cool her boyfriend would be with that behaviour. I didn't intend to judge, but I also don't really go to clubs to dance, so I don't know which kind of dancing would be appropriate. It's just from the information we got, it might as well could be simple dancing or teasing either way - because if she rubbed himself against him while dancing (or the other way round) and he got an erection I'd consider it to be more in the teasing direction than "simple dancing". On the other hand, if they guy wore tight pants and you could see it from miles away, it would just be "well, that happens, he got visually attracted, not his fault" just like you said. But I personally wouldn't dance with another guy I don't know when I'm actually in a relationship (well, see above, I don't go dancing anyway), so that was probably just my own moral ideas kicking in over there. But that's just considering how tight her relationship is, what kind of person she is in general, how they danced, etc.etc. Too much unknown things playing into the scenario to know for sure whether she just danced, teased etc.

7 years ago #9579264          

Damn, Tease explains perfectly why I no longer talk to one of my best friends from comm college. She would flirt with everyone but never had a bf, so I just thought she was really openly sexual... I asked her if she wanted to FWB, and she said "absolutely not, you know I'm asexual, right?"

Shitty thing is I find out a year and a half later that she wanted to platonically date me.

7 years ago #9579643          

@Dalenger She probably, very wisely, decided against asking you out romantically after you revealed your sexual interest in her. Dating as an asexual is tricky. If she gets romantically involved with someone who wants/needs sex, that relationship is doomed to failure from the beginning. Think about it: You were ready to have sex with her without even being her boyfriend. Would you really have been happy to become her boyfriend and then NEVER get it on with her?

It's also pretty revealing that you still think of her behavior as flirting, and yet you compare her to the Tease in this comic. You realize that the comic names them sarcastically, right? MEN mistake a woman's normal socializing as flirting, THEN call her a tease when she won't put out, because they fail to understand that she wasn't flirting, even after it's explained to them. All these years later, you still don't get it. She's asexual. She wasn't flirting with anyone. Not. One. Person.

7 years ago #9583267          

@ArynChris add to this that some people just just flirt, but it doesn't need to mean anything serious? I've seen people do it as a form of friendly banter, but there was no expectation of fulfillment.

7 years ago #9590125          

@ArynChris Damn, get off my ass. Yeah, oc I realize that she wasn't trying to flirt with anyone, that's just how she rolled. That doesn't make it any less of a tease to the guy involved. If we're at a party drinking and she's hanging out on my lap the whole time, then just up and "see ya", that's the definition of a tease.
I'm not saying that anything should be expected of anyone because of how they were acting before (you have the right to decide to say no at any time) but it's still a dick move not to make your intentions clear.

7 years ago #9651425          

i'm the heart breaking feminizer :P

7 years ago #9638780          

I can definitely relate to the struggle here. I am a very friendly person, and I love talking to people, but I'm not fond of physical contact except with very close friends (mostly female) and family. "Friendly" Candi, who throws potlucks and talks about books, gets mistaken for "flirty" Candi, and people get offended when I don't reciprocate hugs or physical contact. It makes conversations with guys in general somewhat uncomfortable, and I have to choose my wording very wisely, as I don't want to offend, which proves more difficult when I tell them I have a boyfriend, (not in an overtly "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND" way, but more in the same way as "I live in Arvada with my three lovely dogs and my boyfriend," kind of way.)